I'm not sure
what's made Jacob Bernstein the go-to feature writer at the NYTimes whenever a notable gay man dies, but I'm looking forward to the day that he eulogizes a great queer pioneer without some kind of alarmist suggestion that all gay men are obsessed with youth and beauty and can't bear the thought of losing either.I first noticed him last year with a piece about Bob Bergeron that invokes Dancer From The Dance to suggest…